Mother's Day....

So every year on Mother's Day I find myself conflicted because though I have a mother. I don't have one. OK, that sounds confusing so let me back up a lil' bit.. My birth mother Sylvia died when I was younger & although her sister adopted me I have no mother still. I call myself "Nobody's Child". When I think of a mother I think of someone who loves their child unconditionally, no matter what! That was NEVER the case with my mother. Of course my family will tell you & me that she did the best she could with me. Sounds kinda crazy considering she loves my other siblings more than life. Not me though. Maybe. it's my lifestyle. Yet, if I had a child I couldn't see that being a reason that I love them any less.  It took me a while to be able to even acknowledge that but it's my REALITY.  In spite of that God saw fit to place several people in my path to who tried to fill that void.Of course, that was never the case because their is nothing like a mother's love. At the very same time how can you miss what you never had.

On this Mother's Day. I choose not to be bitter, angry or hurt. Instead, I choose to Salute The Best Mother's I know who get it done with or without help from anyone. Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs on earth yet it's also the most rewarding. Raising black children is even harder. You have to see to it that your son doesn't end up being the thug or feel less than because he want's an education & according to media black men are dumb. You have to make sure your daughter is aware of self image & knows her worth , doesn't settle or become the angry black woman that society says she will be. The truth is their isn't a secret to raising kids. The books don't tell you & even in the wonderful world driven by technology it still doesn't prepare you. There isn't an app that can help you through those sleepless nights when you wonder If you're doing the best. Well, today I will be that app. You are doing the best you can  & your children are blessed to have you. I am amazed that you never gave up. You never put your children in the system. You give them all the love you can. You defy the odds at every chance you get. Once again I Salute You.....

Tinniel (Cyrus & Tobias's Mother)

Tinniel,  you know how much I love you. Not because you are my nephew's mother & raising him & Cyrus great but because you do it so effortlessly. I have watched you take blow after blow in life yet that never stopped you from being the best mother you could be. You are truly the example of strength. Your mother would be so proud. You are raising two strong, smart black boys who admire you so much. Thank you for keeping them engaged & being the best you can be. You do all that without expecting a handout from anyone.  Show these other women how it's done. LOL. I see your hard work. 

Natasha  (Shameek's Mother)

Tasha, my cousin, my friend. I love you simply because you have a press in your spirit. You go through so much but you have not given up. When I hear Kanye's song "Champion" I think of you. We know first hand about having a rocky relationship with our parents. Yet, when I see how great you are with Shameek I sometimes forget. I am amazed at the fact that you let him know & show him that he is loved on his good & bad days. You refuse to accept that your son will be another statistic & he won't !!!!You are a blessing to him . That's what being a mother is all about.  I know that God has so much in store for you just because you don't stop. Keep doing what you do. 

Tia(Taynece, Jeremiah, Davon & Fruquana's Mom)

Tia, my cousin & the one who gives me a headache at times. LOL. I have seen you grow in these last years so much. You have are rose that grew from concrete. You have 4 beautiful children who love & adore you. Despite, what you have been through you are still being the best mother that you can be. Don't ever let anyone hold you to your past mistakes. Learn from them & continue to be better. I am proud that you went back to school. Keep showing your children that no matter what obstacles come your way you keep going. Love u & stay strong!

Mercedes (Zhoe's Mother)

Mercedes, you are a great friend & though we aren't blood related you are my fam as well. I have seen you laugh, cry & smile at the joys & sometimes pain of motherhood. You have stood strong in the face of adversity. Most women would've crumbled by now yet you stand tall & make it happen. You are a great mother & the jerk who walked out on you & Zhoe lost the best things ever. Don't ever feel like you are less than. Know your worth. No need to ever worry because God will see to it that every need Zhoe & you have will be met. Love u Robin lol! 

Last & not least.. To every boy, girl, man, woman who has a mother or parent's who have not been in your life because of neglect, drug addiction or anything else I will leave you with this. 

Psalms 27:10 When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.

Happy Mother's Day...RIP Nana, Mommy, Aunt Tina, Ms. Theresa & all the mother's who have went on.